do not. I am just letting it out.

Job.... you did the right thing. Waking up every morning and not being able to look at yourself in the mirror and dreading going to work is not a way to live. Life's so damn short! You need to follow your dreams.

Car.... it can be replaced.

Phone... well, now you will not be as distracted as much and you can start working on the future.

Girlfriend... well, you found out on time. Imagine if you were married and had kids? What a mess that would be!

Let us know how it goes but best of luck to you... things are not as dark as you think! At least you're healthy! That's absolutely the most important thing.

"It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything." - Tyler Durden, Fight Club

Thank you everyone for your support. After posting this and answering 2 comments, I turned off my laptop and went to sleep. I didn't do sleep right away. My girlfriend told me everything ( well according to her ) and what was in her heart. I didn't really like what I heard, but at least I felt free. Now that I think about it, maybe it isn't that bad a little bit. When feelings are involved everything doubles up. We are now on the same page and it is better to get out now than latter. The car, the phone I will replace. It is ok. I start realizing that maybe not being connected is not that bad. I think I am not going to replace the push-email enabled phone for a while and enjoy my new found freedom. The job, I don't care. I am happy now. I can concentrate on my startup and I have been doing some consulting ( self proclaim consultant )work, but I was scared to go at it full time. Now, that is what I am doing and at least I enjoy it.

Thank you guys. Maybe I will never see all of you in real life, but you have made me feel better. Everyone needs someone. And sometimes that someone, or "those people" are the ones you argue with online, the ones who don't have a name but a username, the ones who take a moment away from their precious time and support you through hard times. Thank you all.

I don't say this to be mean, though I'm not sure I can phrase it in such a way that it doesn't sound so, but I don't see any bad luck in the story above, other than maybe timing. It appears to be the results of a bunch of bad decisions unfortunately reaching their boiling point all at once.

It's important in times like these to take stock of all of the decisions leading up to this crisis. It sounds like you made a lot of mistakes, as we all do. Learn from them and you'll be the better for it, and in time you'll view this as all as one big opportunity.

You didn't lose your job, you quit, so that may or may not have been a mistake (in fact, it may have been a mistake not to do it sooner) but either way it certainly wasn't bad luck. What it will turn out to be depends on what you make of the opportunity. Get another job you hate and it was a mistake, find one you enjoy and it will turn out to be one of the best things you ever did. You have the choice there.

Cars almost never die completely with no prior warning. I certainly don't know the situation well enough to be sure, but I'd be willing to bet you ignored some serious signs. That's a mistake I've certainly made and learned from.

Losing a phone is usually due to carelessness. We've all done something like it. That one's essentially valueless as a life lesson, you already knew it was bad, and there's only so much you as a human can do to prevent such things from recurring.

The relationships are the tough ones. It sounds like in the case of the girl you trusted someone's words rather than their actions because it was the path of least resistance. That's always a mistake. Yet another we've all made.

Just like a car, relationships never die without plenty of warning. There's a good chance you saw the signs and willfully ignored them. Learn from that.

The only thing left to do now is learn from each mistake and turn all of these annoyances into opportunities.

Pure eloquence. Tip my hat.

Nobody died. It was a good day.

Sorry if this sounds trite, but I'm being sincere. You're alive. You didn't lose, I mean really lose, anyone you love. I read somewhere that numerous studies indicate that people get happier, on average, the older they get (I'm apparently not old enough to be happy all the time, but I'm hopeful)...I suspect it has something to do with a growing understanding of what really matters.

Jobs don't matter. Girlfriends, that you know don't love you, don't matter. Phones definitely do not matter. Cars do not matter.

Your health matters. The health of your loved ones matters. That's about it. Everything else is just scenery.

In short: It looks worse than it is. Get some rest, and when you wake up tomorrow, it'll look a little better. In a week, you'll wonder what all the fuss was about. (Yes, I've been without a car, insurance, and a steady job, with $30k in credit card debt, to boot. Hard times come and go pretty easily if you're learning from your mistakes.)

What are you going to do next? There are plenty of good answers, just pick one and go with it.

This sounds similar to what happened to me in April. I have a few suggestions:

Get physical exercise.

Get sleep. Meditation/yoga might help. Avoid alcohol until you get things straightened out. Avoid caffeine if you aren't addicted already.

Find cheap, healthy food to eat.

Change your environment. Move, or at least rearrange your house or apartment. You almost certainly have unresolved problems related to your girlfriend and your old job, and it's a waste of time to dwell on them. It's really hard to let go of those if your habits and routines don't change as well. Once you're back on your feet, you'll have plenty of time to decide what problems are worth going back to face.

Spend time around people, even if it's just walking through the supermarket.

If you absolutely have to rant, write it down and tuck it away somewhere for at least 3 months. Don't send out anything you might regret later.

I'm not jewish, but I've always thought that this parable is a wonderful for times like these when you feel the whole world bearing down on you: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/This_Too_Shall_Pass_(Phrase)

Hang in there.

That's very uncanny in that it is the exact same phrase that comforts me after a string of bad luck.

Damn, that is a large quantity of bad luck in a short amount of time... But don't panic!

I would say getting the lying gf out of your life is definitely a good thing as painful as it may be now. I had a similar problem with my ex-fiancee. Sooner is much better than later - life is too short to deal with lying gfs/friends.

If you didn't like your job, then its good to be out. Focus on what it is you want out of a job, and go get it.

Get a new phone. Fix your car (if you need it), and then when the dust settles, you may grab victory out of the jaws of defeat. It has happened to me several times when things seemed impossibly bad. The key: you are still standing to fight another day. Never give up.

Thank you Gibsonf. Sometimes it feels better to tell your problems to people who do not know you and can be frank with you. I appreciate all the advices.

You got enough good-wishers/friends here but I'll be an asshole.

If you want to lead some company, you don't rant. You simply can't. I recall a submarine captain from some movie who, when asked "what if you don't know the answer," he replies, "you can't not know the answer."

You cannot falter. Even in the worst of worst circumstances, when you feel like the whole world is against you and you face your demise, you cannot show weakness of character. Soldiers ask the commander when shit happens, but the commander has nobody to ask. If you're a commander, loneliness is not of the least of worries you will face. Depending on someone else for emotional support, in my opinion, is a luxury with great risk.

You're a guy paddling a boat in the middle of the pacific. When you hit a storm, you don't look for people who tell you, "I'm waiting on the island of success for you." You look for people who can sit in the damn boat and actually row with you, or throw you a rope or even fix you a motor. At times of stress, "sweet"ness means absolutely nothing.

If you are a leader, you share your personal pains only with those who would risk their lives for you. And you only know they would, when they do.

This is merely a turning point in life. The sooner you get out of it, the stronger you'll be. So get out now, and make the next decision.

I spent too much time writing this... hope it actually benefits you.

"... You got enough good-wishers/friends here but I'll be an asshole. ..."

what I think whacked means is he's not going to "sugar coat things" but tell it to you straight. Warts and all :)

"... And today, the one person I called my best friend let me down. I called him and say I needed his help. O boy. "Hang on" he told me, "You will do fine". O boy. ..."

And like whacked I'll add some words. Read this article. "Advice to Young Men from an Old Man". I know you can't teach wisdom but I offer the link anyway. It starts off ... "1. Don't pick on the weak. It's immoral. Don't antagonize the strong without cause, its stupid" ~ http://www.craigslist.org/about/best/sfo/279126743.html

Depending on someone else for emotional support, in my opinion, is a luxury with great risk.

Wise words.

Rest assured, nearly everyone has had a string of incredible bad luck that seemingly conspires and culminates together. I know I have had this. Just know that you move on to greater things and the less time you spend on all this bad, the earlier the greater things come.

Hi there,

Sorry to hear about all this you're going through at the moment. We've all had things like this happen at some point but you've really had it all piled on at once.

Can I say congrats on quitting your job? I had a job that burnt me out, got me down and probably caused my last breakup - I wish I'd had the courage to leave instead of hanging around and not doing anything about it. Good luck in finding a new job - the difference will be like night and day when you find somewhere good to work. I promise you. Maybe you can then afford a better car, phone and maybe a new GF ... better than the previous models?

Also move on from your ex. As in: don't try and contact her again or read her blog/facebook or (try not to) leave drunken voicemail messages. She obviously didn't give a crap and you'll only just drag out making it harder to get back to normal. Any sort of "let's just be friends" is just to make herself feel better about doing this to you.

As many posts here say - go out, don't sit about at home feeling sorry for yourself. Not that you're not entitled to, but it just won't do you any good.

Take care of yourself and sort out what needs sorting out. Don't forget to eat ... and breath.

I wish you the best of luck and hope things work out for you. I bet they will.

Can I tell you something? - Losing your job where they treat you badly. Don't know if there's anything better to happen. It's a wake up call and it means you are on the way of finding something much better. - Losing car is not like crashing with it. Stopping on a freeway is not as bad as other things. - Lost phone. Every now and then you really need that to realize how hooked up you are and in what constant stress you are. It's time to think about it for a minute and get a new phone. - Lost girlfriend. It does feel bad at the moment, but if you think about how much you care about your previous girlfriend, you'll realize how much you won't care about this one after a while. Besides, don't you feel free now? - When a friend is telling you "sorry, can't help" it can only mean one thing - be grateful you actually realized the true relationship. This opened your eyes, which is good and you will know the be careful with this person. - Wake up? All of those were wake up calls. And all that happened was for good, so cheer up bro and get a drink with some friends

Hang in there. You're the same person you were a week ago. It hurts to find out that someone close to you isn't who you thought they are... but you're still yourself. Hang on to that and you WILL do fine.

Listen.. Stuff like this tends to come in waves. You'll get a huge influx of shit, but more often than not you'll get a long period of awesomeness afterwards. Sometimes it takes awhile to show up.

You'll be stronger for this whole experience. Just devote yourself to what you like.

Sorry to hear about the girlfriend. We all know how much that stuff hurts...

Everything else doesn't seem so bad.

Of course they lie, why do you think they're called girlfriends:)

Sorry for the lost of your girlfriend. I can only quote Joaquin Sabina.

"...Y una manana comprendi, que a veces gana el que pierde a una mujer"

"...and one morning I understood that sometimes you win when you loose a woman"

Not to compare your recent few days to a study in probability, but these are all independent events that didn't go the way you wanted...

Good luck!

won't bore you with blessing in disguise saying, someone said it to me today and all I could say was, "do blessings ever come as they are, all I seem to get are these so called blessing in disguise."

job, phone, car are easily replaced possessions.

Lying girlfriends may be amusing for a while but get old quick.

So if your here, you must want to do a startup. Here is your chance!

Cheer up, tough it out man... I'm sure things will look up soon.

breathe in, breathe out...

it still hurts, but Thank you

Perhaps you might like today's article by Steve Pavlina, "The Joy Of Sadness": http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2007/08/the-joy-of-sadness/

I'm strongly urged to one-up you (because I could, believe me) but what's the point? You're either going to A) Buck up, or B) Get some Xanax. That's about it.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xe1a1wHxTyo