>how exactly does this kind of individual conversation actually help me?
It doesn't. It just helps the speaker.
It doesn't. It just helps the speaker.
Once you have shown that you are interested in someone by listening to them and thereby learning about them, you might sometimes find that they might also be interested in something you can share with them. The easiest way to get someone interested in you is to first get interested in them.
It's a pretty simple principle, but since people like to talk about themselves they often do not follow it.