I automate updates with a cooldown, security scanning, and the usual tests. If it passes all that I don't worry about merging it. When something breaks, it is usually because the tests were not good enough, so I fix them. The next step up would be to deploy the update into a canary cluster and observe it for a while. Better that than accrue tech debt. When you update on "your schedule" you still should do all the above, so why not just make it robust enough to automate? Works for me.