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Very anecdotal, but in my experience people have no attachment to or enthusiasm for dating apps. I've heard (acquainted) couples say the met on dating apps. No one ever said which ones.

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My counter anecdote would be that almost every time I mention my spouse and I met on a dating app, people ask me which one.

Edit: people ask me which app, not which spouse.

I think the difference is are they people asking in a relationship or not - asking which app is categorically asking where they can find someone to hook up with.

Or it's curiosity (genuine or polite). Maybe, for some people it tips the scale into trying the app either because they were already thinking about trying some/any app, or switching away from their current one.

I don't know if anyone who's asked me has started using the app as a result, but I think it (anecdotally, again) supports an idea that a successful results for one app organically helps its name recognition.

Edit: unless you meant the difference was between people asking which app vs which spouse.

No, you understood me exactly as I meant it - which app. I met a partner of five years on the apps and people often asked how we met but they never asked which app (Tinder) - we actually saw each other on multiple apps but she did not respond on Bumble because it forced her to send the first message, which I thought was interesting feedback.

It doesn’t matter which one because they’re all owned by a single company and converging toward each other.

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