Programmers are just jealous that they are no longer the only ones that get to play pretend.
I don't know anything about you personally, but most "software engineers" are anything but.
I've worked as a software engineer with different types of engineers (electrical, mechanical and automation).
Their testing is often more strict but that is a natural consequence of their products being significantly harder to fix in the field than a software product is.
Other than that, my experience is that our way of working on projects across disciplines is very similar.
It’s all too varied to put people into one or two camps.