Boyfriend Required
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Honestly, if she finds someone based on this, good on her, but she sounds extremely boring.
"Favorite Artists: Nickelback"*
Instant red flag.
I mean, this sounds like something I would have done as a desperate 14 year old (and IIRC probably did), so I guess if she's at that level of relationship-development, then she has a long journey (and ideally should have begun it earlier) but hopefully she'll realise how catastrophic this is.
It's not even the idea of putting a "dating request" on a website, but the way in which it's done. If you do go that way, you have to show people who you are not who you expect them to be.
Thinking about it, and I don't mean this in a derogatory way, but I wonder if she's on the autistic spectrum. If you look at the post, "personality" is reduced to a single line which is shorter than the list of "devices" she owns. It could explain the whole nature of the post. Hmm. At the very least, she's an introvert.
I do find it sad that someone can make it to their late thirties and still be this clueless, though.
On the other, some of them are disturbingly low-bar, and is very suggestive that she's been with people who don't meet them. (Only suggestive; I can think of alternate explanations for why they're on there.)
I only see four requirements:
Someone who writes beautiful code--it makes me cry tears of joy. (Required) Someone who maintains their own server (Required, Linux preferred) Someone who will let me help them maintain their own server (Required) Someone with public repos on Github (Required)
The others are all "preferences", yes?
No smokers. (Required) No one whose personality changes when they drink. (Required) Someone who does not, under any circumstances, become violent. (Required) Someone who does not, under any circumstances, become uncontrollably angry. (Required)
Still a pretty low bar, IMO.
> If you've read the above preferences and feel you match at least 28/30 of them (30/34 for software engineers), please contact me.
That said, I don't think her expectations are all that unreasonable. She's ruled out age and looks as important factors, which opens up a huge variety of people. There's some amazing ugly people out there. Maybe one of them is in the same boat she's in, and will get to know her before deciding if she's worth having a relationship with.
On top of all the attributes and the potential for an emotional connection that this fictional mate must meet - he also has to find and be willing to reply to a github repository personals "ad" - seems like a slim chance but what the hell do I know.
I think I'll pass. Good luck to her though.
"Favorite books: The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen Richards Covey"
More seriously, there is a trend here, where GitHub is not about sharing software only. It has become a blog, a wiki, a social network, etc.
And that's cool.
I think she's pretty typical for a 40 year old woman.
You might find a guy who meets all of these criteria and is a total jerk. And you might end up marrying a guy who is wonderful, who happens to spend 16 hours on a weekend raiding in World of Warcraft.
Part of the process of dating is learning what is, and what is not important.
She's figured out that looks aren't important- that's great. I think she's probably reacting to a lot of things she's seeing in japanese culture- understandable.
But the real requirement -- find someone who makes your life better-- can't be easily quantified.
Cut that garbage out.
Also, she neglects to express any kind of sexual preference. If you're going to make a point-by-point requirements list, surely sexual behaviour should be on there, what with it being an extremely important part of relationships (unless you're asexual, of course, but that's important to note too).
My advice is to perhaps reconsider your approach to your romantic life. Confusing Github with a dating service is kind of an obvious clue, but perhaps it's not so obvious to the person so confused. Also, this list is too long. Condense it down to, at most, three must-haves, and then judge case-by-case from there.