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I missed this further in the article. She broke up with him four years after the first claim of rape only after she found out he was with a 22-year old. So she didn't have any problems "escaping" the relationship.

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This is gross man. Abusive relationships are way more complicated than that, judging someone in this situation because you read one article about it is out of line

It's the article supplied. If you have another article that says anything different, then supply it. If you have further insight into this specific instance, give it.

It has nothing to do with reading another article and I have absolutely no insight into this instance and neither do you. You do not and cannot know what is going on in that woman's life to judge her like that, and it's really gross to try and do so.

Which is why I said I didn't understand and why I asked the questions. I made no judgement but you found it easy to judge me on even less information. How very Reddit of you

You did not just ask a question. You said:

> So she didn't have any problems "escaping" the relationship.

Tell me what difficulty she had escaping the relationship. You act like you know more than I.

No, I do not. I literally said "I have absolutely no insight into this instance"

A woman claimed she was raped by her partner. She left that partner some time later. You questioned it because she didn't leave him immediately and left him after allegations of cheating, completely ignoring the complexity of being in an abusive relationship, and expressing skepticism of the woman for not immediately leaving him. That is really shameful and gross to do.

And even here you are expressing skepticism "Tell me what difficulty she had". You clearly are out of your depth here, clearly ignorant about the dynamics of abuse, and are saying some really nasty stuff about a woman you know nothing about, and now digging in your heels when it's pointed out. You have no place to question anything about this woman's relationship.

Just a piece of advice. If a woman calls it rape it's not on her to prove it. It's on the man to prove it's not. This goes doubly when you're talking about one of the most powerful men in the world. There are dynamics at play here that none of us would be able to comprehend.

Here's another source:

https://www.kron4.com/news/technology-ai/former-google-ceo-s...

An interesting thing is how most of the photos that the media is using to cover this are sexualized images of Ritter and pics of Schmidt in a suit.

I asked for no such proof. Quit making things up.

EDIT: It's really interesting that your link mentions nothing about any rape charges. These inconsistencies are why I am confused and asking questions. These inconsistencies should have you asking questions, too.

Good point. Read into the case where you'll find out more instead of relying on other people to do your searching for you. When you say stuff like:

> So she didn't have any problems "escaping" the relationship.

It's pretty telling that you don't have a sense of the power dynamics that come with sexual violence like this, especially, as I said, with somebody like Eric Schmidt.

You presume there was sexual violence even though there is no mention of it in your link. Or are you ignoring that?

Tell me what difficulty she had escaping the relationship. You act like you know more than I.

I read more than my link, and you can too. Here's some help: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eric_Schmidt#Allegations_of_ra...

I pulled my link from the list of sources there. You can check those sources too.

All that said I was pretty unkind and scattered, and I apologize for that.

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