The ethics of wanting someone who is taken

In my case, you develop feelings for someone who is already in a relationship. You know they have a partner. They openly flirt with you, sometimes in front of friends. No lines are clearly drawn, but there is emotional tension.

This is not about drama or justifying bad behavior. I am fully aware this is public, and I am intentionally framing it as something meant to help others, not to validate myself or attack anyone involved.

I am interested in how people think about boundaries and responsibility in these gray areas.

I will publish an anonymized summary on tavro.se/blog.html of responses if there is enough interest. Thoughtful answers appreciated!

Feel free to mail hello@tavro.se if you have any questions...