Tracking expenses doesn't take more than 5-10 minutes per day, if you do it daily. With the correct workflow, it shouldn't take more than 30 minutes per month. There are even apps that would do that for you without any effort, though not so perfectly as fine tuned apps.
And now, the enlightenment part: how is expense tracking preventing you from making more money than visiting hecker news, reddit, social media, listening to the radio, watching TV, reading the news, or a million other things? Do you really spend all your waking hours earning more money so tracking expenses for a few minutes would make you make less?
Then you discover that you really do need to know how much you are spending on sandwiches.
I went through this a bunch of times. Always hoping for an obvious smoking gun expense I could just cut. It always was many little things adding up.
Budgeting can make that manageable by significantly lowering your living standard but small expenses are rarely the root cause.
Adding all of it together is too much. So you set the thermostat lower by 3 degrees. Pack lunches two to three days a week and cut down the coffee a certain percentage etc.
Cutting any one thing out altogether will significantly reduce quality of life and won't get you there financially. Cutting back a bunch on each category will.
As I said, back of the envelope calculations will get you whatever outcome you desire. Real actual spending data will tell you the real story. There isn't a substitute.
350K in Missouri will give you a vastly different lifestyle than 350K in Denver.
If you have everything you want, no need to track!
Yes, I understand, I'm not stupid. I'm sure you can understand what's implied by my comment. I am saying all of that together is a ridiculous amount for a top 5% earner once summed.
We are not talking scrambling family of four here. At some earning level, difficulty paying the bill is nearly always structural.
It annoys people because it's easier to cut a cup of coffee than to admit you over mortgaged and the solution is obviously far less simple.
I’d say that budgeting allows you to see how far off your ideal standard you are living. Spending too much on the kids school can be a deliberate choice or an afterthought from 4 years ago. Budgeting lets you see that and be deliberate about those choices.
Paying too much for school? If cutting on those sandwiches means you can suddenly afford the school, would you choose to cut the school just because it's a clear, known large expense?
Earlier in my career I always wondered why people earning a lot more than me would not get lunch from outside or the cafeteria but would spend a lot of effort cooking and prepping the food for their work. Now I fully understand where they're coming from.
The little things do add up.
The point of my comment was that I too believed as you did. Always easy to believe things until you track your spending and see the actual numbers.
It's also how I know getting an 8 year old car without too many miles is the way to go.
I hate budgeting and still save around half my salary.
Though I do realize that this is a different game for some people, where some need it more than others.
As soon as we got real jobs with a real income, we didn't waste time with that. Our philosophy now is to just make sure that we spend well under our means and not track. We don't penny-pinch, but we still keep some of the grad school "do I really need this?" mentality.
Our normal spending is somewhere under 1/2 of our take-home (including mortgage), so we just don't worry about it and keep saving. It helps that we don't have fancy tastes. It's a nice stress free way of saving and we don't have to get neurotic about tracking every penny either.
It's a good point about the routine daily purchases, I never thought of that. But I live semi-rural so I'm not out every day wandering around the city and picking up a snack or anything like that. I imagine that could add up.
To the other point, a lot of people have a more or less daily Starbucks or other breakfast related habit.