I don't really understand what you're implication is. The poster I was responding to used the word aggressive to describe how men are "supposed" to seek raises and otherwise negotiate in the workplace, and said that women often didn't act that way.

You can replace the word aggressive with assertive if you think it describes the style of negotiation better, but that has nothing to do with my point.

For posterity, here is an article discussing one such study. (They use both words.)

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2007/07...