Simon - you are an outlier in the sense that basically your job is to play with LLMs. You don't have stakeholders with requirements that they themselves don't understand, you don't have to go to meetings, deal with a team, shout at people, do PRs etc., etc. The whole SDLC/process of SWE is compressed for you.
Something that's a little relevant to how I work here is that I deliberately use big-team software engineering methods - issue trackers, automated tests, CI, PR code reviews, comprehensive documentation, well-tuned development environments - for all of my personal projects, because I find they help me move faster: https://simonwillison.net/2022/Nov/26/productivity/
But yes, it's entirely fair to point out that my use of LLMs is quite detached from how they might be used on large team commercial projects.