We've turned off the flags.

Sorry for any distress over this. The moderators didn't flag (or see) it. Users flagged it, and whilst we never know why users flag things, in this case it may have been because it seemed outside of HN's usual scope. But as moderators we think it's fine if the community is able to discuss a topic like this and provide meaningful advice and help. We're really sorry this happened to your family, and we wish you well in finding a way forward.