2) The design and performance seemed fine. The icons seem less harsh on twitter.com because the row height is closer to the icon size. Also, maybe only display the instructions the first time I visit the page. Go from Popular to Recent and back to Popular. The instructions get in your way.
3) I guess I rolled this one into the first answer.
Now, it sounds like I may want different things from twitter than your target market since for me it is more about ambient relationships than insightful commentary.
Congrats on your launch!