Which, to be fair, people online have a habit of just arguing past each other.
And in most countries we wouldn't call multiple cities of 100k+ population 'nothing'.
HSR is the spine of the transportation network, that local and regional traffic docks to making a greater whole. It increases the reach and power of public transport as a whole.
For HSR to be successful, you need people using the in-between station for regional trips, not just end to end airplane like trips.
I guess there are some very passionate rail fan liberals in the Eastern united states that hope for true HSR on the East coast that really root for HSR.
But then again I have heard plenty of Californians passionately denounce/advocate for the project.
So I don't think your observation holds.
1) I wish we had better rail transit in the bay area and to the areas surrounding the bay
2) I have to own a car to get to places in Northern California
These don't seem like remotely contradictory positions.