There is no life without pain and suffering. It's as much a law of nature as gravity. Life needs something to push against, to struggle to overcome. Without that there simply is no life. If life doesn't struggle and suffer against things it never even starts. Once started, if life stops struggling and suffering, it quickly dies.

Religion and tradition have elevated humanity and it's good to acknowledge that. They never could have eliminated suffering, only changed the sources and types of suffering. It is helpful for many of us to have things like religion and traditions to give the suffering more meaning, sense, and purpose.

Those are both embodied expectations of idealizations.

When people like the father never find the courage to speak, they will be harmed/destroyed/etc. in exactly the way those traditions would warn against.