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I don't think it's fair to consider only the son in this. I'd say do what's best for both your son and your wife. And to me that's pretty clearly telling his wife the truth here.

I think this is right. Many parents could think of choosing to opt out because raising a family can be difficult sometimes, but it’s a responsibility people have taken. Take it seriously. It’s a bit chicken to say “I’m out” whatever the reason. See them through their formative years then do your thing.

I completely agree. Life as a parent is only about oneself insofar as looking after yourself is good for your family.

children mimic the actions and lifestyle of their parents

being a role model means demonstrating how to be happy

an existence proof of a good and happy life is a powerful thing

people learn at a young age that words are cheap. advice doesn't cut it

The kid will be fine. Couples separate or get divorced all the time for all kinds of reasons. “I have two loving parents who are now separated” doesn’t appear on the shortlist of bad things that can happen to kids.