Few female pop stars manage to gain success without appealing to the "male gaze" even if they produce stuff for women as their target demographic. On the contrary people mostly don't care if male musicians are hot - Ed Sheeran or make very questionable decisions - Drake.

Look at top 20 male and female popular artists on Spotify and try to think how many of them are agreeable and objectively good looking.

https://kworb.net/spotify/listeners.html

I don't know know if this answers your question. I also might have a huge blind spot, open to talking about this.