This seems like a you problem. I have quite a few repos made before using "main" was the default in GitHub or Git. I have not changed them, and I have never spent more than 5 seconds thinking about it, let alone worrying about being considered "less of a person" because of it.

In the spirit of genuine curiosity, who is making you feel like less of a person wrt the choice of main/master, and how are they doing that?

It sounds like you're saying that git maintainers are intending for you to feel like less of a person because you don't agree with their choice, but I don't understand how you arrived at that conclusion.

you keep using that word but i don’t think it means what you think it means

Careful, you're almost arguing the points of "the other side" you seem to detest so much!