Playing the hand you were dealt is fine. Pulling an ace out of your sleeve is cheating.
There is no "rule" in life that says that people have to be judgmental assholes to each other. Using a card game to justify the behavior is just a rationalization.
Of course that's not as bad as people who try to rationalize bad behavior behind a veil of pseudo-intellectuality.
Once again: rationalizations don't make something true.
On the contrary, since many (if not most) people do it, they're on the social side.
>Once again: rationalizations don't make something true
When it comes to social truths, what most people do make them so.
If most people think X bad, X is bad is a social truth. Doens't matter if you think X is "not bad in reality". Reality doesn't care about good or bad anyway, it doesn't have a morality.
Also this post has the classic logical error of assuming that because something is a certain way, it should be that way.
> Reality doesn't care about good or bad
Likewise: What you call "social truths" are real in that they shape behavior and consequences, but they’re conventions, not objective moral facts, and they can be unjust or oppressive.
That's a modern dellusion.
Sociology (and common wisdom) tells us that judgment "that shames, excludes, or hurts" is necessary for the development of morality, social cohesion, and cooperation.
Note: not any random judgment "that shames, excludes, or hurts" has this possitive role, but plenty of judgements that "shame, exclude, or hurt", meaning that judgement that "shames, excludes, or hurts" is a useful social tool.
Refusing to be an asshole to someone being an asshole just enables them being an asshole.
Refusing to judge if someone is being an asshole, ensures that someone being an asshole will see no consequences for being an asshole.
But to be fair I'm mostly criticizing useless HN post-hoc rationalization.
> Refusing to be an asshole to someone being an asshole just enables them being an asshole.
I have nothing to do with this.
> Refusing to judge if someone is being an asshole, ensures that someone being an asshole will see no consequences for being an asshole.
I also have nothing to do with this.
Or do you think anti-social assholes do not exist or are not common? Or that any system of identification of people should not attempt to understand them?
I'm just saying that there is no game anywhere, except in the head of people who are pretending to play a game.
Isn’t that…. Every game?
Apparently there is, which is why this judgement you speak of happens.
It just happens to be a social rule, and you don't like it, but it's a rule nonetheless. Doesn't have to be an official rule, agreed upon, and signed by each participant, or some physical law.
Hence, the card game metaphor has some merit. Like people think you shouldn't cheat in a card game, many people also think you shouldn't cheat with cosmetic surgery.
Most people don't care, and I'm willing to bet that the ones rationalizing the behavior here don't go out of their way to care or talk about any of this.