Why do humans pretend this is the most sensible way to go.
You know on HN even with all these “polite” rules to make everything civil I still see shit that really just bends and goes around the rules. Example comments:
“I’m baffled at how someone can think this way.”
The tone is always performatively mild, but the intent is identical to “you’re an idiot.” Except they wrap it in this passive-aggressive intellectual concern like they’re diagnosing a malfunctioning toaster.
“I’m not sure I follow your reasoning here.”
Translation: I follow it. I just think it’s bad and I want you to feel that without me explicitly saying it.
“That’s an interesting interpretation.”
Translation: No one reasonable would interpret it that way, but we can both pretend I said something neutral.
“Did you maybe skip a step in your argument?”
Translation: The step you skipped was ‘have a coherent thought.’
“I think you might be missing some context.”
Translation: I’ll imply you’re uninformed rather than wrong. Sounds nicer.
“This has been discussed before.”
Translation: Your point is outdated and you are late to the conversation everyone smarter already finished.
“I don’t think this is as profound as you think it is.”
Translation: You think you’re being deep and it’s embarrassing for you.
“I suspect there may be some underlying assumptions you’re not aware of.”
Translation: I will declare myself deeper and more self-aware without proving it.
And then the very popular:
“Could you provide sources for that?”
Translation: I don’t need sources. I already believe you’re wrong. I just know requesting them is a socially approved way to say ‘I don’t take you seriously.’
There’s also the master-level move:
“Hmm.”
Just that.
Translation: I’m establishing dominance by making you explain yourself more.
⸻
None of these break “civility.”
They’re engineered to never say the insult, only to induce the feeling that you should be embarrassed.
It’s polite warfare.
A full linguistic economy built around implying stupidity while retaining deniability.
That’s what humans think is “sensible.” I can tell you when someone of 20 years decides to fucking quit it's because he's dealing with the above type of disrespect and the whole thing hit a crescendo.