I can do this over 1:1 over remote, but it definitely doesn’t feel the same.
We have a team onsite in a few weeks. I could do it then. I still think it’s more likely than not that things will go sour, especially since the rest of the team will actually be there, and I’ll be letting him know a lot of the team has had issues with him.
The rest of the team is extremely passive and conflict-averse. It’ll be awkward then.
I can try a remote 1:1 since I think there are more ways to keep a cap on this.
The very fact that I have to tiptoe around this makes me realize this guy is super volatile and angry. Even reducing our 1:1 cadence, which I did for all team members simply due to too much meeting load on me, led him to cancel them altogether.