Mind sharing these tools and what each one does?
Ansible basically automates the workflow of: log in to X, do step X (if Y is not present). It has broad support for distros and OSes. It's mostly imperative and can be used like a glorified task runner.
Salt let's you mostly declaratively describe the state of a system. It comes with a agent/central host system for distributing this configuration from the central host to the minions (push).
Puppet is also declarative and also comes with an agent/central host system but uses a pull based approach.
Specialized/ exotic options are also available, like mgmt or NixOS.
Actually I am looking for tools to automate DevOps and security for self-hosting
Ansible can also do that, on top of literally anything else you could want - network configuration, infrastructure automation, deployment pipelines, migrations, anything. As always, that flexibility can be a blessing or a curse, but I think Ansible manages it well because it's so KISS.
RedHat's commercial Ansible Automation Platform gives you more power for when you need it, but you don't need it starting out.
Ansible-Lockdown is another excellent example of how Ansible can be used to harden servers via automation.
It is in general the simplest of these systems to get started with and you should be able to incrementally adopt it. There is also a plethora of free online resources available for it.
The person you're replying to mentioned a self-hosting use case, so this probably isn't relevant for that, but Ansible can also be configured for a pull approach, which is useful for scaling.