>> random and shocking is much more concerning

For sure, urprising, notable, and scary. But it seems especially for random causes that we can not control, why should we worry about those?

In contrast, death causes which are semi-fully controllable should concern us greatly.

E.g., just don't smoke is a virtual guarantee of extra 5-20 healthy years (and a greater difference if you're in the ~1/3 having the genetic makeup susceptible to cancer from smoking). Seems we should be very concerned and work hard to avoid smoking, vs random death from a helicopter falling on us?