For my home or personal server stuff... I'm pretty much using ProxMox as a VM host, with Ubuntu Server as the main server and mostly Docker configured with Caddy installed on the host. Most apps are stacked in /apps/appname/docker-compose.yaml with data directories mounted underneath. This just tends to simplify most of my backup/restore/migrate etc.

I just don't have the need to do a lot of work on the barebones server beyond basic ufw and getting Caddy and Docker running... Caddy will reverse-proxy all the apps running in containers. It really simplifies my setup.