I'm gonna say that we
need MORE "assholes" in the industry, the way things are now. Or rather, that being a perfectionist kinda makes one an asshole, because by definition you don't tolerate anyshit less than perfect.
Recall all the things in tech that have peeved you since a long time:
If you were to be given charge of those companies, would you waste time asking people nicely?
I mean, sure, maintain basic humanity, don't devolve into Linus Torvalds, but to make major changes you HAVE to not put up with bullshit.
iTunes in Jobs' era had no overly intrusive DRM; you could literally copy purchased songs to another computer and play them there.
Now, Apple TV+ is so anal about DRM that skipping a few times causes it to get stuck, while it tries to reestablish that you are free of sin. Trying to watch on iPad on a slower-than-lightspeed connection while on travel requires a restart of the app every few minutes. I had to cancel my subscription and just pirated a copy of Severance just to be able to finish the show.
You can't even take screeshots. You can't even copy text from Books.app (in some/most books). There's so much user-hostile bullshit in iOS/macOS now that would get employees/managers lashed if Jobs was there. And I, a user, would be all for it.
I could keep going but I don't want to ruin my own day.