I agreed with you initially.
> I'm fairly sure that I could explain how to break up any long PR in a sensible way. Parent thinks couldnt be done, so do you - what is an example?
To me, when I meet experts in any field, the quality that stands out isn't that they do everything to expert level, it's that they get everything done as they said they would. Sometimes that means big PRs, because that's the environment created, and the expert finds the way to get the job done.
I'm not doubting you _could_ break up any PR into a shorter one. But that's kind of the point of an expert: they recognise what makes sense to do in reality, rather than just doing something because it's best practice and expecting everyone else to do the same.
They ultimately get the thing done how they said they would.