Was about to comment on this but you got right to the point. All of this is because people are lazy to build, let alone maintain, their own damn programs and servers.
(cloudflare customer, in both personal and professional capacities; i pay Fastmail to host family email; both can easily be switched if needed to prevent lock in, with DNS changes and in the case of hosted email, an export of mailboxes and tenant config)
And there is a spectrum to this. For example, using a small, independent email or hosting provider may cost a little more time, but makes you more independent from big tech, and maybe more importantly, contributes to reducing the power of big tech. We are all paying for it, down the line.
Paying Fastmail, along with others who do so, means Fastmail will remain as a non Big Tech option, for example (they also developed and championed, JMAP, for a more efficient user experience). Paying Kagi means Kagi will remain as a non Big Tech option. Donating to Let's Encrypt means Let's Encrypt will remain as a public good independent of Big Tech. I could go down the list of every service I pay for to de-Google and de-Big Tech, but that's likely unhelpful to further demonstrate the point.
> We are all paying for it, down the line.
Indeed, so establish and fund organizations that provide systems and services for benefit vs profit and control that cannot be captured. Self hosting your own box at home helps you (which is totally fine and reasonable, I run my own on prem infra across two continents at small business enterprise scale for use cases I cannot procure commercially at reasonable cost), but does nothing else, and doesn't scale.
(think in systems)
You get to respond to requests and your data cannot be handed over without your knowledge.
but I do mind my data being drag-netted, or hoovered up by scummy big tech and then sold on
(whether that's for slop training, ads, anything really)
Citation requested. Big tech considers your IP address dishonorable, and blackholes your emails. How independent are you now when you can't email any providers that use blacklists?
> contributes to reducing the power of big tech
Again, citation requested. Big tech will just blackhole your emails and you'll only find out when your users complain.
I also see a lot of comments from those who have admittedly never tried, telling me that I'll be blacklisted and not even know.
I don't know if this is some kind of confirmation bias, or if there's just a very vocal bubble of people without experience talking about how difficult it is.
Are digital content creators lazy too? Why don't they just host their content on their own damn servers?
And always will be.
Do you talk to your customers with that mouth?
For those who are lazy to click, this guy's business is hosting and maintaining a sales platform for people.