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Comment by walterbell | Hacker News Reader

> If people keep declining invitations.. indistinguishable from someone who doesn't like me/the group/our plans that much

Per the second sentence of the article, declines were limited in scope to party invites, https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=45348495#45355972

  We ended up hanging out quite a bit during those early months.

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I think the fact that so many people (myself included) interpreted it as Anna declining everything demonstrates that the article is poorly written. Even a quick signpost mid-piece like "parties obviously weren't Anna's scene, but she was a regular at our dinner table" would have made things much clearer.

There's a big difference between inviting a regular to something they may or may not like, and inviting someone who's absent for everything.

Agreed. If you're on Twitter, there's a thread, https://x.com/sharifshameem/status/1970238923621404690

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