No, the class can use a sentinel value internally only to mark moved-from objects. That's exactly where we actually started the conversation. That's why I said that destructive moves would only somewhat simplify the move operations, but not make a qualitative difference (in this area).
> The sentinel value need not be exposed in the public interface of the class, it can only be accessible via the customization point of the optional.
Since the optional would need to construct an instance with the sentinel value, I thought that the "sentinel" constructor must be public. However, you might be right that one could write a template specialization that contains the template argument as a friend class. In this case you could use a private constructor. Note that the destructor still has to handle the sentinel value... But I guess this is just something you have to accept.