I feel bad for this woman, she’s trapped in a manic prison by having enough wealth to turn everyone into enablers. I’ve seen active mania and how it affects decision making and the perception of reality in the people suffering under it. I’d much prefer a lack of guardrails nudging me towards treatment instead of wealth enabling me to engage in a public campaign of harassment.
Sometimes a lack of consequences is more debilitating than facing the consequences of your actions, if facing those consequences can set you on a better path, something I’ve learned from personal experience with chemical addiction. I used to do a lot of drugs, and so did Zappos founder Tony Hsieh. The main difference between him and I is that I eventually ran out of money and had people attempt to talk some sense into me instead of enabling me to death, something which I am very thankful for today.
I had someone save me. Not from my own behavior, but from the mental health collapse I suffered, after the bizarre and damaging choices of someone else completely undid me and my circumstances. My gratitude to the person who held onto me until I could start mending will never fade.
I am very glad you also had good people there for you. We all need those people.
> I feel bad for this woman
But it's a little difficult to feel sympathy for this lady. She is relentlessly destroying a vulnerable persons life, who already had her own grief and health repercussions to deal with. As her husband who openly disagrees with her puts it, as part of her "grieving" process.
I hope this situation ends with legal justice that reflects the realities.
Given Cindy Bi is on her way to becoming famous, it won't be as unidirectional from here.
> Bi’s husband focused on stabilizing the family, a move he credits with saving their marriage. He blamed the hospital, not Smith, but told me that the litigation is “her grieving process.” He tried to stay out of the legal stuff so that Bi couldn’t blame him too.
I honestly feel bad for the family, because I've heard many stories about this type of familial dynamic from children who grew up inside them...
> She also hired psychics to give her answers. As she tells it, they all blamed Smith. One suggested that an ex-boyfriend of Smith’s had turned her against Baby Leon. Another claimed to see traumas on Smith’s belly and said she was clearly having rough sex. He warned: “She has something to hide.” When Smith refused to release her medical records unless nonpregnancy information was redacted, Bi saw it as confirmation that Smith was hiding crucial details.
What in living fuck do psychics have to do with a surrogacy process?
Also, this:
> SAI countered that there was “no documented bleed” on the date in question but clarified that there was “some light pink fluid which the doctor was not concerned about.” SAI said Smith asked the doctors to tell Bi directly, and that the contract gave Smith two weeks to tell Bi. “That’s emergency information,” Bi said. “She should have told me right away.”
You're going to have a hard time convincing a court that an obstetrician noted, and was unconcerned about something but that you believe it was "emergency information".
> If Bi had been told, she believed that Leon would be alive. She would’ve insisted on a C-section immediately.
A layperson insisting on a C-section at what would have been ... 27-28 weeks gestation? Where viability is ~70% at best? There's so much to poke at there. Ostensibly, Bi had a contract with the surrogacy agency that "guaranteed" a "well baby". One, who writes that contract? And seems to me the mere act of "insisting" on a C-section (which let's also be clear, has a risk to the mother, though lower) at that gestation would be at odds with any "guarantees".
This would be a hit TV show on par with Baby Reindeer, if it was ever televised.