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The first three months of childcare are practically memoryless for the child. Provided they are cared for, you're not usually going to do any damage to their lives. An absent father during that period will be irrelevant so long as the child is fed, clothed, and kept comfortable. It's more about mechanical things.

It's pretty reasonable choice.

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The first three months of childcare are not memoryless for you, though.

One's duty is to provide for one's child. One may indulge oneself with the memories of infancy but to prioritize duty is not shameful. It is what fathers and mothers have done throughout history.

This person clearly has the choice. And they made it. That’s up to them. But it makes me sad because paternity leave was the most rewarding and magical time of my life and brought meaning to everything else. That someone got paternity leave (many people don’t and are forced to work!) and just used it for something else, just makes me sad.

This comment also makes me so, so sad.

> The first three months of childcare are practically memoryless for the child.

Source? The fact that you can't remember this period _now_ does not mean it has no impact on a child's development.

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If you're not willing to hold a conversation here without being paid, then you should not be on the site.

Source?

https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html

Actually says the opposite in there if you cared to read your "source" lol.

It doesn’t, actually. In fact it repeats a few times that it’s not ok to be annoying here.

I find it strange that this user is still not banned. They routinely behave like a jerk and violate the guidelines. Routinely.

You can reach out to the moderators if you feel strongly about this

i hope someday you learn what love is

Holy shit.

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