Edit since you expanded your post:
>The most interesting to me was LWN, about the debian tools, where an actual psychologist got involved.
To me the comment was patronizing implying it was purely due to bad communication from Kent's end and shows how immature people are with running these operating system are. Putting priority on processes over the end user.
>respecting their decisions and moving on.
When this causes real pain for end users. It's validating that the decision was wrong.
> really doesn't matter how "right" you may be... not your circus
It does because it causes reputational damage for bcachefs. Even beyond reputational damage, delivering a good product to end users should be a priority. In my opinion projects as big as Debian causing harm to users should be called out instead of ignored. Else it can lead to practices like replacing dependencies out from underneath programs to become standard practice.