Happiness in Relationship Loci

Happiness and pain with stress as buffer plays balancing role in relationships of any kind.Internal locus has strong bearing on the external locus like quantum tunneling it works on both orany in community related by some association or other.As long as the perceptions and projections remain valency depending on economic or pleasure factors the relationships exist. But random occurrences disturb the peace and hapiness creating stress and strain mental and somatic. Distant thoughts on related persons by the subjects does have ameliorative effects. Can an expert explain this ?