> sqlite in its default (journal_mode = DELETE) is not durable.
Not true. In its default configuration, SQLite is durable.
If you switch to WAL mode, the default behavior is that transactions are durable across application crashes (or SIGKILL or similar) but are not necessarily durable across OS crashes or power failures. Transactions are atomic across OS crashes and power failures. But if you commit a transaction in WAL mode and take a power loss shortly thereafter, the transaction might be rolled back after power is restored.
This behavior is what most applications want. You'll never get a corrupt database, even on a power loss or similar. You might lose a transaction that happened within the past second or so. So if you cat trips over the power cord a few milliseconds after you set a bookmark in Chrome, that bookmark might not be there after you reboot. Most people don't care. Most people would rather have the extra day-to-day performance and reduced SSD wear. But if you have some application where preserving the last moment of work is vital, then SQLite provides that option, at run-time, or at compile-time.
When WAL mode was originally introduced, it was guaranteed durable by default, just like DELETE mode. But people complained that they would rather have increased performance and didn't really care if a recent transaction rolled back after a power-loss, just as long as the database didn't go corrupt. So we changed the default. I'm sorry if that choice offends you. You can easily restore the original behavior at compile-time if you prefer.