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So what exact porn moves is she talking about? I watch a fair amount of porn, and a lot of the positions are obviously uncomfortable and just for show. Even if it wasn't obvious at first, it would be as soon as you tried them.

However, I do think porn has introduced me to some new, valuable ideas. Maybe this lady has just had some bad lovers? Anyway, while I think the rationale is condescending, I'm all for some more "natural" looking porn on the market.

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If you check out http://makelovenotporn.com/ you'll see what I'm talking about. And no, the lovers that inspired MLNP to begin with were only a few vs a bunch of really great ones :) MLNP is not anti-porn: the issue I'm tackling, as I say in the NY Times piece, is the lack in our society of an open healthy discussion around sex and porn, that would enable more people to bring more of a real-world mindset when viewing what is essentially artificial entertainment. My entire message with MLNP boils down to simply 'talk about it'. If you go to the About page on MakeLoveNotPorn.com, you'll see why this is an issue.

I think sites like reddit.com/r/sex already provide rich community discussion about sexuality and sex.

I visited that site and was greeted with such valuable insight as "in porn, they love to do X, but in real world, some people like to do X and some do not, it's a personal choice". You don't say! Are we really got to the point that such things need to be spelled out? What next - obligatory warnings on movies saying "the movie is not real life, you do not have to copy characters in the movie, it is your choice how to live your life"? This just makes me sad.

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