The only options you ever need are tar -x, tar -c (x for extract and c for create). tar -l if you wanna list, l for list.
That's really it, -v for verbose just like every other tool if you wish.
Examples:
tar -c project | gzip > backup.tar.gz
cat backup.tar.gz | gunzip | tar -l
cat backup.tar.gz | gunzip | tar -x
You never need anything else for the 99% case.