Gay sex doesn't kill 45000 people a year.
Nothing is gained by conflating unrelated topics like suicide, gang violence, domestic violence, and the occasional deranged lunatic spree killer just because they all abused the same tool to commit murder.
Unfortunately, most people are more interested in the simple answer than in recognizing there is no simple answer. And people are remarkably poor at recognizing that those who are muddying the waters are almost certainly arguing a false position.
HIV transmission is way higher among men who have sex with men.
In any event:
1) Guns don't kill people. They don't even make the people-killing appreciably more likely.
2) Washington has about 1,000 gun murders per year
3) About 2/3 of U.S. gun deaths are suicides, so we might expect about 333 gun murders in WA in a year.
I'm really glad U.S. HIV deaths have fallen off a cliff!
WA state has about 300 murders a year, up significantly from 200-ish pre covid.