People continue to misrepresent what the EU is and how it operates, which is actually harmful if you care about stuff like this. You're basically trying to send the message to everyone that they're powerless "because EU". The reality is that nation states are pushing this. If you want to signal your disapproval, write to your politicians, vote for different ones, both national and MEPs.
Unfortunately, this is simply a reflection of democracy. Most people are just not informed enough about this topic to care. We think it is a big deal here on reddit, but most of the population just ignore it.
For better or for worse the core institution or decision making processes were never designed to be democratic in any meaningful way.
Seems like a bizarre waste of time considering that that you already made up your mind to such an extent that you ate not even willing to explain what are you even trying to say.
> and doesn't fit the reality which is modelled after most democracies on the planet
Well yes, because the EU is rather unique compared to pretty much any post 1800s democracy.
Most of the representatives there are local tokens that are there to pull EU money in the pockets of their parties.
EU is artificial state made only out of interest of political elites.