I think the "vendor tools are god" attitude is overall negative. The vendor tools ARE leagues better than the open source alternatives, but it doesn't mean the open source stuff is just for toy projects.
For example, Vivado is a monolithic pain in the ass. If I want to use an FPGA as electrical super glue for a project, I don't want to be downloading 150GB onto my machine. I think the open source tooling is particularly useful for smaller projects, and the general attitude towards the tooling is really frustrating.
The research that has gone into the RE the bitstream structure and the overall structure of FPGA fabric is extremely impressive. Vendor IPs are often bloated to get you to buy the bigger chip, where open source IPs take up much less of the fabric.
There's give and take but from my perspective a big problem is the tooling.