Got death threats because I wasn't prioritizing stuff people were requesting, said nah I'm done
Fully agreed. FOSS maintainers don't owe you anything. You can ask for whatever you want, politely, but accept no or "maybe when I have the spoons, which may be never" as an answer, and don't push.
Maybe insert a few more rights here, like "modify"?
I had death threats once for raising a github issue!
I don’t regret open-sourcing this project but god as your project becomes popular bad apples start joining and ruining the party for everyone. Fortunately it’s only a tiny minority, but it’s what stays the most on your mind.