https://developer.apple.com/notifications/
This is fairly at odds with the goal of XMPP, where the device listens to the server. But of course that model doesn't really work when the device is sleeping most of the time (and I don't know how IP or TCP connections are handled in an LTE or 5G world, but I'm sure there's a consideration there).
All this to say: iOS is hostile to XMPP.