I agree. It really is a pain to build OSS on the Mac, and it's not like you'd ever deploy server software to a Mac.
My laptops are just workstations to do day-to-day life stuff and a portal into my virtual computer world, where I'm working with remote displays, browser windows, command lines all over, and all that jazz. If it's anything remotely server related that needs to be on all the time, I'm likely not running it on my laptop anyway - it'll be on a linux box somewhere.
Or, if I'm on the move and it's really important to get a project done, a local VM on the little macbook.