Learning the concepts that embody Erlang such as tail recursion and function matching, make Erlang worth learning. Erlang is also a special mix of Prolog and Lisp.
For me Erlang was worth learning because it's so interestingly different to many other languages because of its Prolog roots.
I don't think it's really impeded my ability to learn or use Elixir. But I could also see how learning it and the underpinnings for Elixir could aid understanding too.
I picked up Joe's Erlang book years after out of pure joy/curiosity.
Especially with LLMs, totally unnecessary.
You don't need to learn OTP at first either — it'll just slow you down and confuse you. Learn Elixir syntax and semantics, learn how to build a Phoenix app or whatever, then dive into OTP once you're comfortable with the basics.
Erlang knowledge is not needed for building products with Elixir at all unless you want to go very in-depth.
TLDR: sure i could have done it in node but it would have been a LOT more work and less reliable