Maybe those people are right, though? I think the discussion starts from a place that assumes other people are wrong. If you start there, you will fail to convince people of anything, because you automatically dismiss their claim, without thinking about what they might have seen and what they might think.
A better starting point would be wanting to get to the bottom of it, and assess the security of io_uring. If you start from that point and you give it an honest, thorough assessment, and it turns out it "looks secure", you'll have an easier time convincing people.
You might still be wrong (assessing io_uring's security is not trivial), but at least you tried to understand why people think that.
And reminder: it's ok to "agree to disagree".