"The issue where I am is that all adoption agencies facilitating adoptions from other countries have shutdown. All of them because of massive scandals where the adopted children was more or less sold or the parents where lied to."

Specifically, American parents tried to return to sender a kid they didnt like. Ie they thought they deserved a kid.

"Adoption from abroad is tricky at best, and now it's no longer possible. [...] That's not to say that there aren't children being adopted, but the waiting list is 10+ years."

Being a parent is a about giving yourself away. If you cant do that you're not ready or suitable for a kid.

"Most children are placed in foster care, which is very different."

Who deserve loving families.

Look, I haven't adopted a foster kid: because Im scared Im not good enough; I admit it. But let's not pretend that there aren't a plethora of kids in need of families that we must have IVF for those who are not capable of conceiving their own.