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That seems like a strange judgement to make for another person. While I agree that it’s typically better to get updates in person, it may be very difficult to do so based on their circumstances. And judging the importance of someone else’s family events feels even more inappropriate.

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I’m not judging - I’m just stripping away the excuses. “Oh I just use social media for XYZ” ok so does everyone else who uses it for whatever random purposes that other people want to judge them for. People had great, meaningful relationships before social media.

You are in fact expressing judgement, and your comments are getting more judgemental as the thread goes on. This is the excuse people always use to portray their feelings and judgements as objective "uncomfortable truths".

Ok I’m expressing judgement then.

Now that I’m expressing judgement, I stand by my judgements.

That was quick. You are haranguing this person for not upholding your standards of social media use while failing to hold yourself to a standard of intellectual honesty.

Maybe it just takes an addict to know one?

When people think things are deeply true of themselves it can be very, very difficult for them to see when it isn't true of others. Especially if there's an embarrassing or shameful element.

Alternatively, when someone understands a deep truth it can be easy for them to cut through the excuses others use to hide that truth from themselves or others.

Sure can, but when you refuse to entertain alternative hypothesis or respond to evidence, you're just building a cage to protect yourself from nuance or from recalibrating your views slightly.

The evidence provided wasn’t sufficient to me, nor is it anything I haven’t heard from dozens of other people both online and real life.

You’re free to disagree, hop on and Tweet a picture of it or whatever, but you should at least have respect enough for yourself to acknowledge that in matters such as this others can have genuine differences of opinion and be dogmatic about them, and have thought through such matters at least as much or maybe more than you yourself have.

Like I said before, I deleted my accounts, I'm not on Twitter.

> [You] should at least have respect enough for yourself to acknowledge that in matters such as this others can have genuine differences of opinion...

Physician, heal thyself.

Bsky/Twitter, same thing but with different marketing.

> Physician, heal thyself.

What opinion did you provide? As far as I can tell you started with this whole nonsense about judging others. Did you lose track of the conversation or do quips like this make you feel good about yourself?

See what social media is doing to you?

I don't have Bluesky. I already told you twice I deleted my accounts.

> See what social media is doing to you?

I can see that you imagine I'm in some kind of torment nexus, but again, you're bringing your biases and preconceptions into this discussion and not listening to what people are saying, so you end up boxing shadows.

Sorry, my fault I genuinely must have confused you with someone else.

Though my general statement I think still stands regarding Blue Sky. That’s another damn cesspool.

> I can see that you imagine I'm in some kind of torment nexus, but again, you're bringing your biases and preconceptions into this discussion and not listening to what people are saying, so you end up boxing shadows

Hmm I must be imaging the comments you wrote calling me these things then.

I get it, when things get heated everyone you're talking to blends together. I tried my best not to be insulting or to piss you off, but to the extent I did I apologize.

It’s just words on the Internet - none of it matters. I think it’s kind of fun to trade barbs sometimes even if that’s not really useful.

Ok I admit it - even I have found a use for social media. To pointlessly argue with folks!

(quick reminder, hacker news is a social media platform.)

People (and kids) were a hell of a lot more interesting the longer you didnt see them.

Pictures on social media counts as interaction but its very limited. You still get to feel like you see them regularly.

You get your desired social interaction but it is arguably fake. Then we stick a display on your mums forehead and rotate advertisements. Not offensive at all.

You get your desired fake soical interaction fix therefore, when you finally meet the person irl (after say a year) you can both look at your phone the whole time because you "interact" with them every day. There is no need to tell stories or go do something.

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