Very few people seems to be complaining that Google crashes their sites. Google also publish their crawlers IP ranges, but you really don't need to rate-limit Google, they know how to back off and not overload sites.
I have had odd bot behavior from some major crawlers, but never from Google. I wonder if there is a correlation to usefulness of content, or if certain sites get stuck in a software bug (or some other strange behavior).
But as with any contact with these large companies, our contact eventually disappeared.