I wonder instead if what is being described here comes from a conflation of drag and maybe something from the BDSM world with trans? I think it does describe the experience of people who live a life in which they feel if not undesirable, then at least ordinary, who have an costumed highly sexualised alter-ego which they inhabit a kind of performance which put makes them a focus of attention, sometimes of desire, and sometimes in a position of power (not these are not exclusive) that is very different from their ordinary lives.

It sounds nothing like autogynephilia to me, although it still sounds like bullshit.