Women are not dolls

I am confused... first off, duh. Second: if I say to my partner, "use me, abuse me, spank me harder" am I not asking her to objectify me? If a woman uses a sexual apparatus to satisfy herself, you know, a big honkin' thing that makes even the most confident/capable/endowed man feel silly, is this not objectifying maleness? Also, from observation, do both men and women not want to feel beautiful or handsome or whatever?

"Fucking and fighting..." as it goes--is not there something primal about this? Now, this does not make sexual violence acceptable in any way, especially where exploitation is involved. But, weapononizing identity and biology in this way seems like a huge fucking fallacy, especially if algorithms are being used by law enforcement. Cobra problem, anyone? Pun intended.

How about: women, men, any gender in between (and uh, asexuals and eunichs?) should be able to defend themselves without the state, judicial, and intellectual apparatus intervening?

Lastly, sex work. Dancers, porn stars, etc... Some people want to do this. I imagine its a thrill. Strip clubs are not something I frequent or promote but, the inversion of roles is most amusing and perhaps even illustrative of what egalitarian sexual roles look like. I am not about to pay for it, and non consensual pornography makes me sick. However, sex is healthy, folks. (What are the chances certain cancers and other maladies are linked to disregulated hormones and bodily fluids? What would you say if it was discovered temperance is good but equipose is better, and normative value judgements are at the root of most major health problems?)

Thank you for coming to my Ted talk. Please explain to me what an asshole I am. I might even change my opinion. Regardless, thinking and writing is most pleasurable.

Shocking: Aging Generation That Objectified Women Are Mad, Cannot Accept Consequences