But ego and names are made up. Separation just thoughts. The more life believes in thoughts it becomes divided.
But the waves and ocean are one.
You can declare Life to mean the complex interplay of every living organism, but I don’t see how you can go as far as to claim our physical and mental separateness is not there at all? After all, we need boundaries between „us“ to not be utterly alone. I like to think even of „my“ body more as a federated system, like Life maybe but on a smaller scale. I have some influence on it but not full control. In fact, one could say the polarities in the physical realm are Nature (towards separation, entropy; Kaos) and Life (actively working towards one, requires energy to keep matter ordered; Order).
If we merge, by definition the „I“ and „you“ have to die; both of us stop existing. The merger creates something new, a „we“. A single entity. We can then use the definition of identity to call this new we „I“. Rinse and repeat until back to being alone/all-one?
Do you really want to be all-one? Omnipotent, full of all potentials/possibilities? I don’t know. I am already overwhelmed with my limited human potential/possibilities/options. And I prefer to not be alone. I prefer to stay separate, and keep my identity.